CUM DETERMINI COPILUL SA-SI FACA SINGUR TEMELE

  Eiii, nu-i asa de simplu. Unii dintre noi, mai norocosi, isi spun: este usor, i-am spus copilului sa-si faca temele iar el le face.  Dar foarte multi spun: il oblig, altfel... vede el. Nu stiu ce vede, dar nu cred ca se atinge scopul: acela de a-si determina copilul sa-si faca  temele. Altii spun: nu am timp de el, este treaba lui. Iar altii dintre noi ne implicam in mod direct in a-l ajuta pe copil  sa-si faca temele, a-i explica mai mult, de a le furniza mai multe informatii decat le ofera manualul. Rezultatul: Copilul face temele in sila, face temele cu gandul la castiguri-iar in cazul asta ii intra informatiile pe o ureche si ies pe cealalta ureche(si mai exista dezavantajul ca poti ajunge la un moment dat intr-o situatie critica si nu-i mai poti oferi copilului ce-si doreste. Intrebarea mea este: ce se intampla atunci? Copilul nu mai invata pentru ca nu mai primeste nimic?)  
Poate ne gandim sa-l inscriem la cursuri ajutatoare. Am gasit un loc:  www.arhimede.ro/ - il recomand cu incredere. Am vazut copii olimpici la matematica, care urmeaza in paralel cursuri la acea "scoala". Si mai ramane sa motivezi copilul sa invete: pentru a fi cel mai bun, pentru renume, pentru a-si atinge o TINTA, care se afla undeva sus de tot. 
 Personal, consider ca nu trebuie obligat si stresat copilul, trebuie sa-l motivezi cu "idealuri", nu cu recompense imediate, nu trebuie sa-l pedepsesti - pentru ca pedepsindu-l pentru invatatura va ajunge sa urasca scoala. Si nu te abtine sa-l ajuti, ii va fi mai usor, atat lui cat si tie. Meditatiile- atat de discutate- asta inseamna: ajutor calificat. De ajutor are copilul nevoie pentru a se  dezvolta. Iar cand se fac mari si ne depasesc in cunostinte- ne vom mandri ca sunt copii nostrii.
  Multa bafta in noul an scolar!


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Eiii, isn't so simple. Some of us, more fortunate, they say: it's easy, i told the child to do homework and he makes them.  But many say it out, otherwise ... sees him. I don't know what he sees, but I don't think it serves no purpose: to determine your child to do homework. Others say: I don't have time for it, is his job. And others of us get involved directly in helping a child to do homework, to explain more, they provide more information than the manual. The result: the child do homework in sila, doing homework with the thought to win-and if that enters the information in one ear and out the other ear (and there is the downside that you can get at any given time in a critical situation and no longer can give the child what he wants. My question is: what happens then? The child does not learn that no longer receives anything?)  
Maybe we are thinking to join the training courses. I found a spot: www.arhimede. com/-I recommend with confidence. I've seen kids math Olympic, which follows the parallel courses at the "school". And more remains to motivate the child to learn: to be the best, to reputation, to achieve a target, which sits somewhere on top of everything. 
 Personally, I think that should not be obligated and stressed out the child, should motivate him with "ideals", not with immediate rewards, not punishing him because chastising him for teaching will come to hate school. And don't help to help him, it will be easier for both of you as well. Meditations-so-this is discussed: qualified help. Help the child to develop. And when you are doing great and we are beyond the knowledge-we are proud of our children.

  Good luck in the new school year!

CUM SA FACI SA NU CITESTI

   Greu de crezut. Si mai greu de acceptat. In secolul XXI copii nostrii nu mai vor sa citeasca. Nu gasesc nimic interesant in lecturile pe care noi, parintii lor, le gaseam atat de interesante. totusi, ce facem? Ii lasam asa, ca poate intr-o zi vor gasi placearea cititului, ii amenintam ca daca nu citesc nu vor mai primi ceea ce stim cu totii ca oricum vor primi, mai devreme sau mai tarziu. Sau poate ii pacalim, intr-un fel sau altul, sa citeasca catusi de putin, ceea ce le place, pentru a capata placerea cititului, pentru a-si da singuri seama ca este mai interesant sa citesti decat sa vezi un film.
   Dar oare ce se intampla atunci cand citim? Ne folosim imaginatia. Bine, pentru noi cei din epoca "straveche" imaginatia a fost folosita si exersata datorita lipsei mijloacelor de informare, care acum le intalnim la tot pasul: calculator, tableta, etc.Copii nostri nu mai au o imaginatie dezvoltata pentru ca nu au fost determinati sa o aibe. Au gasit la indemana orice au avut nevoie. Vrei sa traduci?-exista aplicatii  pe internet. Vrei sa faci un referat? ai unul gata facut. "La ce bun atata munca cand e gata preparat?"-era un slogan in anii '90.
   Si totusi, ce ne facem cu ei. Cu siguranta nu este bine sa-i lasi in plata Domnului.
   Mai deunazi copilul meu," fortat" sa-si aleaga o carte pentru varsta lui, care sa-i faca totusi placere, tropaind de pliciseala si enervare ca "uite cum pierde el timpul printre rafturile de carti din librarie, in loc sa fie in parc alaturi de prietenii lui, imi spune pe un ton grabnic si enervat. "GATA, HAI SA PLECAM! UITE, HAI  SA LUAM O CARTE OARECARE, ITI ARAT EU CARE." Si-mi alearga catre un stand de carti, pune mana pe o carte si-mi spune: Ma gandeam sa o luama pe asta. Ce zici?"
    O iau, citesc titlul: "Cum sa fac sa nu citesc" www.editura-arthur.ro. M-a amuzat teribil titlul si mi-am dat seama ca nu sunt singura pe lumea asta intr-o asemenea situatie. Au mai fost si altii care, spre salvarea mea, s-au gandit sa ne ajute.
    Nu pot sa mai spun decat ca de cand a deschis-o, copilul meu nu a mai lasat-o din mana, iar cand a terminat-o(a doua zi), a spus: "MI-E RUSINE SA RECUNOSC, DAR A FOST INTERESANTA SI M-A CAPTIVAT. SA NU MAI SPUI LA NIMENI CA AM CITIT. O SA-MI STRIC REPUTATIA"
    Ce spuneti?

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 I can not say more than that when he opened it, my kid has never let it out of his hand, and when he finished it (the next day), said: "I'm ashamed to ADMIT, but it was INTERESTING and I was CAPTIVATED. NOT TO SAY ANYBODY THAT I'VE READ. I SPOIL YOUR REPUTATION "you say? Hard to believe. And harder to accept. In the 21st century no longer will our children to read. I don't find anything interesting in lectures that we, their parents, I found it so interesting. However, what do we do? Leave it on, maybe someday they will find on amenintam placearea reading, if you don't read will never get what we all know that however they get it sooner or later. Or maybe fool, on in one way or another, to read in the least bit, what they like, in order to gain the pleasure of reading, to give yourself that is more interesting to read than to see a movie.
   But what happens when we read? We use our imagination. Well, for we in the era of "ancient" imagination was used and exersata due to lack of mass media, which now meet them everywhere: computer, Tablet, etc.Our children no longer have an imagination developed so have not been determined to have one. Also found at hand any needed.  Want to translate?-there are applications on the internet. You want to make a paper? do you have one ready made. "What good work so much when it's ready-prepared?"-It was a slogan in the ' 90s.
   And yet, what do we do with them. Surely it is not good to leave the payment of God
   As I was reading my child "coerced" to choose a book for his age, to make yet tropaind of pliciseala pleasure, and rasping like "look how loose he's time among the shelves of books in the bookstore, instead of being at the park with his friends, tells me on a quick and annoyed tone."READY, LET'S GO! LOOK, LET'S TAKE A BOOK ANY SHOW YOU I CARE. " And I run to a stand of books, putting his hand on a book and telling me: I was thinking its a luama on this one. What do you say? "
    Pick it up, read the title: "how to make it not read" www.editura-arthur.ro. Amused me terrible title and I've realized that I'm not alone in this world in such a situation. There were others who, for my salvation, they decided to help us.